The gauntlet has been thrown

I have been sitting here the past few days thinking....yes, I know it's a dangerous pastime....
Anyhow I have thought about ALL kinds of things, but i keep coming back to the subjects of LOYALTY and HONESTY

I think both are lost in today's society...

People are selfish, they don't care about being LOYAL to anyone but themselves. If the situation can further their own selfish desires then ANYONE is game for being thrown under the Bus. Which is quite disturbing really. I would like to think that there is SOMEONE who can be trusted but, let's be honest, I am just not that naive. I have come to conclude that my spouse is the only one I can really lean on...He's the one PERSON i can truly trust. I can count on him to give me an honest opinion and not sugar coat for fear of me not liking it... and I KNOW WITHOUT A DOUBT that He has my back. (and he's not trying to stick a knife in it)True Story...
I think the Mob may have been onto something when they fitted liars and betrayers with cement shoes....just my opinion of course

I think women are the worst offenders of these two attributes, and I feel like I can say that since I am a woman, and I would have to say I know how we operate...with a little bit of strategery.

Women, for some reason, are terrible at being Loyal... especially with other women. It's like they are nice to your face, but you had better have tough skin, cause as soon as you turn, they are going to stab you, and beat you down with others. Women have you for lunch when you aren't there, they tear down your integrity and beat down your character. It's sad really.

It's like women NEED to do this on order to feel better about their own lousy lives.......its almost as if they have such a crappy perspective on their own life, that they have to bring other women's lives down too

Well I am here to let you know that it STOPS here. I am tired of hearing about it, I am TIRED of being one of your darn speed bumps thrown under the proverbial bus. I think that from now on I am going to call you out on it...I can no longer stand by, knowing you are feedin on me or any other woman, and pretend that everything is hunky dory. I can NOT and will NOT be the subject of your betrayal any longer. If you have something to say, then say it, but know this...you had best have FACT and not a bunch of gossiping lies or false accusations, as your foundation my friend. You had better come equipped with the TRUTH. Because I will be armed and ready with the TRUTH....
I am done being idle. I am done seeing fellow women be torn apart. I am done being the feast of your luncheons. I am just done.

You can leave my circle of "friends" because with friends like you, what on earth does a girl need enemies for.
I can't pretend everything is ok ANY longer, because its not. I can't be fake with you, and I am not. If i don't care for your presence I don't request it. I don't pretend to like you if i don't. I don't fake concern if I am not. I dont smile to your face while gossiping behind your back. I am a straight shooter and I guess it was just TOO much to expect you to return the favor. how about this, do me a favor and stop it. Just STOP. I am ok with having a few select friends who I know at the end of the day will stand the front lines with me. I would rather have that than the entire army of dishonest and disloyal cowards!
I am throwing the gauntlet...... either come at me with TRUTH or slink away and leave me be....... but if you bring it, you better be prepared for TRUTH to be tossed right back at you!
I am done venting for today...that's all for now..until next time

just something I am lousy at..No biggie

Today I had the honor of attending the funeral of a Lady I have know for many years....i kinda think of her as my proxy gramma. See, I have a best friend from childhood, and this woman was actually her Gramma, but she adopted me in as well. She was a no-nonsense kinda lady, and was a far cry from your traditional Gramma.....but that's another story....

As I was sitting at this funeral service I got to thinking......I suck at funerals, mostly due to the fact that my feelings are left in a jar beside my bed.....and I can't seem to get the sympathy thing down....I am quite awful at it...in fact most people know me for the phrase "rub some dirt in it" or "suck it up and pull up your big girl pants" Yeah, so...funerals, with the crying and the sympathy...I am lousy at them!

I also thought...why do we even have funerals? I mean really? I get the fact that the still living have to mourn...i TOTALLY understand that...but...i am not sure why we have funerals? They cost a boat load of money,and i think there could be other ways we could have "closure"
What about a celebration? I mean why cry about the death? Why not celebrate their life, and if your belief follows...celebrate that they are home! Sure we could cry about the memories, but to have to sit through the music, and the sermons (which are ALL different) it seems unneeded?

I am not claiming to know that THIS would be the best thing for anyone, but I am just sayin...

I would have to admit that to me, it seems that if a family is already grieving the loss of a loved one, why would we want to put even more financial burden on them by hosting a funeral and luncheon? Do you have any idea how much a funeral costs? Like really? Its a ton! And seriously on this note...WHY ON EARTH WOULD I NEED A VAULT for my DEAD body? It just doesn't seem logical.... grieving people aren't of sound mind to make financial decisions....

Now I can understand (to a point) that the sermon is a Pastor's way of giving the grieving family some hope during their difficult time...but a funeral to do that? I just don't get it... I can also see that perhaps the Pastor is trying to deliver a message of salvation to those sitting in the chairs that haven't heard it...I can see that, but really a funeral? Can't we think of any other way to do it?
Besides, (this is where I get a little "freakish") doesn't scripture say that Jesus told one man to "let the dead bury their dead" I mean i don't recall the big J.C. speaking at ANYONE'S funeral. He took his sermons on the road.....just sayin

I just don't get it, maybe i am weird like that....yeah, I probably am, and hey it's ok with me. If you want someone to straight shoot ya, I am THAT gal, if you need a shoulder to cry on, I could handle that, but if you're looking form someone to give you sympathy...I am going to have to pass.....but I will be upfront about it at least, and now days, That says something......
That's all for now, until next time...............